How to want more without feeling guilty for new moms: honest answers for Briargate

Reading room · Briargate edition

The bravest sentence a settled person in Briargate can say isn't 'I want more.' It's 'I still do.'

And this is Briargate: one of the Colorado Springs area's most established communities — the kind of place where life looks handled from the outside, which is exactly why the gratitude-versus-settling question lands so quietly here Which means the question isn't hypothetical here — it has an address.

🎧 A note for Briargate readers (short audio)

“Ambition is not ingratitude.” — There Is a Fine Line Between Gratefulness and Complacency

Three questions Briargate readers dodge

What would you try if nobody would ever find out if you failed?
When did you last do something you weren't already good at?
What did you stop wanting — and was it a decision or a drift?

The two-column dinner question

At dinner this week, ask someone you trust: 'What am I better at than I was a year ago?' Sit with the pause before they answer.
Write the pause down. The topic of the pause is your next move in Briargate.

Nobody's coming to push you out of a good life. That's why you have to walk.

Which kind of reader it's for

There are books that fire you up for a week, and books that recalibrate a decade. Readers describe this one as the second kind — the rare title that gets more useful as your life gets fuller.

What Briargate readers want to know

Is it another hustle-culture book? The opposite. One of its most-quoted lines is literally 'This is not a hustle book.' It's about honest ambition, not grinding.

Is it good for a book club? Very — discussion questions come with it, and the 'where have you confused gratitude with settling?' prompt alone powers an hour.

Don't just nod — read the whole argument

This page is a doorway. The book is the room: honest chapters on comfort, comparison, ambition, and what to do this month. Kindle $0.99 · Paperback $14.99.

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