How to want more without feeling guilty for new moms: honest answers for Sunriver

Sunriver: for readers done coasting

There's a particular kind of tiredness that follows a genuinely good life — the kind Sunriver knows well. It isn't burnout. It's the fog that rolls in when you stop asking for anything more.

And this is Sunriver: an established Bend-area community where the houses are cared for, the calendars are full, and the question 'is this all?' shows up right on schedule It's also why 'someday' tends to get scheduled for never in places like this.

🎧 A note for Sunriver readers (audio, ~20 seconds)

“Ambition is not ingratitude.” — There Is a Fine Line Between Gratefulness and Complacency

The pattern Sunriver knows by heart

Comfort arrives as a reward, stays as a routine, and leaves as a regret — usually in that order.
You keep upgrading the life and forgetting the liver of it.
You've outsourced wanting to the next purchase, the next trip, the next anything.

The two-column dinner question

At dinner this week, ask someone you trust: 'What am I better at than I was a year ago?' Sit with the pause before they answer.
Write the pause down. The topic of the pause is your next move in Sunriver.

The plateau in Sunriver isn't a failure. It's a platform — the question is only what you build on it.

How it reads

Written with warmth and a sharp eye for the details of ordinary life — school hallways, group chats, Sunday kitchens — the book treats your plateau with respect, and then hands you the keys out of it.

Quick answers, Sunriver

Is this a religious book? No — it's a personal-growth memoir-essay hybrid with universal themes. Readers of any background (or none) quote it the same way.

Does it work as a gift? It's the rare growth book that reads as a compliment, not a hint. The paperback is the usual gift format, and it ships with Prime.

For the reader in Sunriver who's ready

There Is a Fine Line Between Gratefulness and Complacency is the conversation this page can only start. One evening, $0.99 on Kindle (free with KU), and the question stops being rhetorical.

There Is a Fine Line Between Gratefulness and Complacency — book cover Kindle — $0.99 Paperback — $14.99

Kindle Unlimited includes it · Prime delivers the paperback · Group questions on the main site.