How to want more without feeling guilty for new moms: honest answers for Tijeras

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The people of Tijeras aren't ungrateful. They're busy, settled, and quietly aware that 'fine' has somehow become the ceiling. This is about what comes after that awareness.

And this is Tijeras: an established Albuquerque-area community where the houses are cared for, the calendars are full, and the question 'is this all?' shows up right on schedule That context matters more than any general advice ever will.

🎧 A note for Tijeras readers (30 seconds, spoken)

“Ambition is not ingratitude.” — There Is a Fine Line Between Gratefulness and Complacency

The comfort audit that stings a little

You have more routines than rituals, more maintenance than meaning.
Your gratitude journal reads like a maintenance log.
You've optimized your life so well there's no room left for a plot twist.

The Tijeras walk test

Take a 20-minute walk through your neighborhood and narrate, out loud if you can, what you'd build or change if comfort wasn't in charge.
Whatever you said first — that's your thread. Pull it gently for seven days.

Gratitude looks backward with warmth. Growth looks forward with nerve. A full life uses both sets of eyes.

The ending that gets bookmarked

It ends where most books begin: with a practical, kind, slightly uncomfortable question about what you'll actually do next. Readers in Tijeras and across the country keep the last chapter bookmarked.

Tijeras readers, briefly answered

Is this aimed at women? It's written with a broad, warm voice that lands strongly with women 30-60 — book-club favorite territory — and plenty of husbands keep borrowing it.

What's the one-line takeaway? 'Grateful' and 'growing' were never opposites — and the moment you pick both, the guilt goes quiet.

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This page is a doorway. The book is the room: honest chapters on comfort, comparison, ambition, and what to do this month. Kindle $0.99 · Paperback $14.99.

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